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Intuitive

I was just thinking about Intuition this morning and how we’re all gifted with it. Not just mothers, not just women and certainly not just those born under specific star signs.

As I coast into my 30s I realise that it’s all a matter of really listening to the cues your body gives you. What does your heart say? Your brain? Why is there a sudden adrenaline spike? What is that tug at the pit of your stomach? Why does your hand reach out to the left option automatically? I have always second guessed these decisions but I’m slowly learning to trust my intuition and see where it guides me.

Very forward thinking, no? Makes you feel like hey, she’s got things under control. Nope.

After this whole internal spiel about Intuition and trusting my body, I went about my daily routine: Cats, Shower, Skincare, Essential Oils, Prayers and Setting Intentions. After all that was done, I was feeling content but I suddenly felt something pull at my core. I felt such an overwhelming sense of sadness and I had no idea why. So I asked myself what I wanted to do with this and I replayed what my therapist said: “If you feel it, just feel it. What’s so bad about crying and letting go?” She said this because I had a tendency to suppress my feelings until the cup overflows (or bursts) so to speak. Therefore, feel I did. I found a corner and cried big fat horrible tears even though there was nothing that triggered me to feel sad.

Unfortunately for me, these were not healing tears. They made me feel worse than I when I started. And let’s just fast forward to present time: I had a HUGE ROW with my partner which made me feel double the sadness than when I finished crying!

Therefore, my question right now is: should I have really listened to that voice inside my head? Is my intuition broken? Or am I meant to go through all that heartbreak in order to get better things?

Wait. That’s more that one question. Oh well.

Let me know what you think peeps. Do you trust your own intuition? Does it lead you down the path of convenience and safety or does it lead you to where you’re meant to be?

What Even?!

Oh. My. God.

It’s been a good 4 and a half years since my last blog entry. I don’t even know if blogging is still a thing. I’m guessing it is since my IG timeline is still full of bloggers and influencers. Did we already have that word coined in 2014? Oh God, I’m not starting to sound like I’m 60, am I?

Hang on, I need a breather.

Alright.

Well, the only reason I’m turning back to blogging is because my therapist thought it would be a good idea to start journaling again. I do write things down with pen and paper but sometimes my narcissism gets the best of me and I find publishing my thoughts a much better form of therapy.

For one, it forces me to write in complete sentences with good grammar (for the most part) and two, I have to reread what I’ve written which in turns help me realise that things aren’t that bad. It basically turns the anxiety down a notch.

Now the only problem with blogging is my lack of consistency. It’s a recurring theme in my life. So I’m trying to commit myself to posting once or twice a week on stuff that I like. It won’t be as cute as before. At 32, I barely feel cute but I do feel badass most times. I am also quite Salty now so that’s a heads up for all of you. Anyway, you guys (the 2 people who read my blog) will be able to hold me accountable for the steady stream of posts.

Well, that was a good start. I’m just going to submit this coz it’s on my to do list and my fingers are itching to cross it out. I’ll try to reorganise and archive everything by next week so it will be easier to navigate.

See ya folks lay-tah!

Sandwiches at Weddings

Having sandwiches at a wedding is not the norm for my culture. We’re a rice and coconut-milk-rich dishes kinda folk. Even our fellow countrymen of different races tend to pile on the rice rather than have sandwiches.

However, a few of my customers have requested sandwiches for their wedding and this has piqued the interest of my other clients. The prevalent question I’ve received lately is “How do I incorporate sandwiches in my wedding?”

Easy Peasy!

Firstly, the best way to serve them is in bite sizes and as Hors d’oeuvre. Hand them out during cocktail hour or while waiting for the event to start. For example, perhaps you could serve these to your guests while you get ready for your Nikah or between church and tea pouring ceremonies.

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BLT Mini Sandwiches at a wedding via Style Me Pretty. Photo by Landon Jacob Productions.

Make sure you pick simple and light flavors as you wouldn’t want them to be too full for the main course.

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Tomato finger sandwiches as appetizers via Style Me Pretty. Photo by Sean Money & Elizabeth Fay.

Next is to add them alongside the buffet table as a healthier or kid friendly option for your guests. Children prefer fuss free food that can be gobbled up quickly so that they can continue playing. Sandwiches, especially of the finger variety, would be ideal for them.

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Sandwiches at the Buffet Table via Style Me Pretty. Photo by Ken Kienow.

Last but not least is to have them as main dish for your picnic/garden/park themed wedding. One of my favorite bloggers, Danni of Oh Hello Friend had her nuptials at a beautiful park where she and her husband had their first date. There were mats laid on the grass, vintage furniture arranged perfectly and the sun cast warm rays throughout the day. The guests were treated with individually wrapped sandwiches right before the ceremony.

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Pictures via Oh Hello Friend Blog. Photos by Christian Cruz & Hope Feathers.

Something out of the box but very meaningful for the couple at the same time. Perhaps you could try it! A picnic reception is easy on the pocket and a great way to be closer to your guests.

Hope these three suggestions have given you inspiration to add sandwiches to your wedding.

Any other ways to incorporate sandwiches to a wedding?

Another Beginning

Source: typeverything.com via Ashley on Pinterest

Poster by Studio Muti

We’ve arrived at 2013. My God, how time flies. Judging from my previous post, it whizzed by at breakneck speed. :)

As I’ve mentioned, I have learnt a lot in between this post and the last. Applying what I’ve learnt though has been an arduous task. Business leaped as soon as we left the seminar which resulted in me having less time to actually sit down and review what needs to be done. I know, this sounds like another excuse but life just finds a way to get to you.

Nevertheless, I’ll have to consciously make a decision to review what I’ve learnt and actually take the baby steps needed to start my journey to wealth. Wish me Luck!

On a side note, I’ve written down some mini goals inspired by Emma Chapman of A Beautiful Mess fame. Last November, she laid down four simple goals to achieve for that month. Considering I’ve got the motivation and attention span of a fish, I’ve decided to focus my goals one month at a time just like Emma.

Here are mine for January 2013:

1. Write for 20 minutes, 3 times a week. (Yes, this was inspired by her as well) A blog post, a couple of tips, a fictional story. Anything. As long as I WRITE.

2. Read the Quran, at least 3 times a week. I find that this brings the most peace and clarity than anything else I usually do. Even a few sentences make all the difference.

3. Drink between 3 to 3.5 Liters of water a day. Water, the cure for most illnesses and yet, the hardest thing for people to be consistent in taking. Apparently you need to take 7% of your body weight to get to your optimum body water level. If you’re quick you will roughly know my weight now. ;)

Well, you’ll probably be seeing me more often here now since I’ve committed myself to writing a little more than I usually do.

Do you have any goals or resolutions? Have you broken any of them yet?

Countdown to 26!

I can hardly contain my excitement. No, not for my birthday. Well, not yet anyway. This weekend I’ll be attending an amazing seminar/course on marketing and business. We’re going to have a crash course on building a better business and pushing it into as many streams as possible. The final goal is to be wealthy and successful. :D

I know, some of you might say it’s not easy, it’s near impossible, that being wealthy means you’ll be a prick or worse, just trample everyone else in the process. However, that’s not how I see it. How do I provide for my family if all I’m earning is just a meager salary? How do I travel the world with just enough to get by? How do I make sure my family (including my kitty cats) are always in good health and happy if I only make just a little extra every month?

Money can’t buy you happiness but trust me, not having enough can make you pretty darn upset.

Therefore, I’ve opted to join this course and I’m absolutely pumped to absorb all I can for three days.

Now, the reason why I mentioned my birthday is that the start of said course will begin exactly 30 days before my birthday. I’m taking it as turning point for my life. I plan on learning as much as I can, applying as much as I can in order to build myself as much as I can before my birthday. That’s my mini goal.

I’m definitely not going to stop after my birthday. As we all know, learning NEVER stops and neither is improving oneself. I just want to use my birthday as a checkpoint of sorts and I want to be proud of myself, the day I step into the shoes of a 26-year-old. I hope to say to myself ‘I did my very best and worked very hard to be here’.

So here’s to a new beginning and I do hope to update you on my progress soon. :D

Weather Watch Fashion: Capes & Ponchos

It’s raining heavily where I am right now so a healthy dose of Pinterest is due. :)

I came across a new fashion staple for the changing season: capes and ponchos. Perfect for those experiencing fall and for us experiencing torrential downpours that’s a welcome relief from the usual hot balmy weather.

To be honest, at first I couldn’t figure out the difference between the two as both styles were labeled similarly on online catalogs. So, I decided to rummage through my brain back to my elementary school days and I happened to recall that:

Cape: a piece of cloth that’s longer in the back and can be tied or fastened at the neck.

-Classy right? When I’m a yummy mummy I’d wear this. It’s from Lanvin.-

Poncho: a piece of cloth that’s Mexican in history, has a hole in the middle to slip your head through and when worn, has the triangle side in front and at the back.

Isle of Sky Poncho by Wooden Ships via Free People

-Oh SOOOO comfy!-

Yes. I did learn all this in elementary school. Okay maybe it was with the help of Wikipedia. :B

Capes and ponchos serve the purpose of keeping us warm without sacrificing style at the same time. In fact, brides who want a little cover up while being able to show off their stunning dress can opt for a beautiful lacy number, like these ones from The Knot:

 Bridal capes via The Knot

And look! Kim K is looking absolutely hot in hers!

Kim Kardashian via Outfit Identifier

Lastly, the one other thing I like about capes and ponchos is how versatile they can be across the whole year. It just depends on the material they’re made out of. Heavy wool for winter, lighter knits for fall and chiffon or silk for spring and summer. Just like this one:

-Just GORGEOUS. Perfect to wear over a bikini at the beach.-

Have I converted you yet? Jumping on the bandwagon already? I have. In fact, I have a poncho of my own lying in the pile of clothes I call my closet. I’ll definitely have to pull it out this rainy season. Perhaps I’ll scour the internet for a cape of my own soon too. ;)

Which do you prefer, the cape or the poncho?

Dreaming of a Dream Job

 

I found this while perusing the internet and I now unfortunately don’t remember where I got it from. If you know the creator, let me know so I can credit them properly. :)

I just came back from a seminar on being an industry millionaire. The speaker said he could identify between 3-5 businesses that a person could delve in just by knowing their interests. I thought ‘wow. imagine being able to do ALL that at the same time!’ and you know what, the speaker is doing that exact thing now. He’s got about 15 companies under his belt and they are all based on his passions or interests.

Therefore, it would be easy to say that yes, you CAN form your dream job just by indulging in the different facets of your life while making money out of it.

You can open an online boutique while sharing your recipes at the same time. You can also publish a book about meeting new people while being a fitness instructor. The possibilities are endless! There’s no box to insert yourself into and claim, ‘I found it! My dream job!’. There are so many boxes that you can collect and tape them up to form an amazing shelf that is sturdy enough to hold all your belongings. And look at it this way, if one box crumbles, you’ll still have the others to support your things. Or just add another one!

The seminar got me really pumped up and motivated so my biz partner and I are going to do some heavy thinking and planning today for Simply Sandwiches. :D Wish us luck!

The Sky’s The Limit

Sky Series by Eric Cahan

I came across these beautiful pictures awhile back and they keep drawing me in every time I log on the computer. I have to admit, I have a thing for clear skies and the gradual change of color over time. It’s truly awe-inspiring to stare up and watch as the shades slowly morph into a different hue.

My favorite memories involve sunsets in particular. Ending my weekly jog at the top of the hill in Kingsford to watch as the fading sun slip past the Sydney skyline, leaving a trail of dark blues above me. There were also the times in Bali where the skies were painted with glorious pinks and purples. I caught my breath every time it happened, especially when I could see the colors reflected in the cool ocean.

I love sunsets and these pictures so much that I think I’ll model my wedding color scheme around them. Yes. That would indeed be perfect. Perhaps I’ll go the full spectrum from turquoise to purple to orange and ending it in pink.

What do you think? Would it be too much of an overkill? :B

Not Easy

 

Print from Remember Your First Love.

There are days when you get really discouraged with what you’re doing. Even if you’re pushing with all your might, things seem to leak out at the cracks.

I’m trying very hard not to delve deeper into my troubles and I’m practicing filtering what I share with people. You don’t want to seem too riled up about something when you know that it’s just part of life. Besides, all things come to an end, good things or bad.

The mantra above is what I’ve been silently chanting to myself on a daily basis. It has helped. So has dream building and being thankful for what I DO have. I think that’s a good exercise. Listing down what you’re thankful for and reciting them every morning or whenever you’re feeling down. Before you know it, all the negative thoughts have slipped away quietly from your head.

What do you do to chase the blues away?

Amateur Baked Eggs part 2 & 3

    I decided to venture into baked eggs territory once more this past week. This time I used cream instead of milk and the concoction came out beautifully!

    Part 2: I substituted the cured meat with some sauteed oyster mushrooms. I just added some salt and black pepper to taste. They were wonderful and gave a nice ‘meaty’ texture that carnivores would miss in other vegetarian dishes. Le bf has conjured up a new recipe for sauteed mushrooms so I will try his suggestion the next time.

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    Part 3: In addition to the beef salami I used during Part 1, I also chopped up some bbq chicken to go into the ramekins. This lent some sweet notes to the baked eggs giving the taste a little more depth than if I were to use salamis solely. Although I loved it, the boy prefered if the taste was singular and he would probably appreciate it more If I had separated the two meat ingredients. Well, to each his own I say. :)

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    I can’t wait to try out some other flavor combinations. What kind of ingredients do you usually use? Or what would you like to have in your baked eggs?